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Goals are an important part of life. They give you something to strive for and help give your life meaning. Too often, we mistake wishes for goals. Wishes are daydreams. There’s no plan to achieve them, only a vague hope that someday something will happen. Goals, on the other hand, are wishes with a plan of action. You know what you want and have taken the time to plan how you’ll get it.
Follow the steps below to stop wishing on stars and to start taking the necessary steps get what you want out of life.
Deciding On Your Goals
Take a minute to think about something you want. Maybe it’s a new career or a new car or maybe you want to read a new book every week this year. It doesn’t matter what it is, but make sure it’s something you’re doing for you and not for someone else.
Etch It In Stone
Okay, don’t really go buy a chisel and a stone tablet, but write your goals down. Writing down your goals increases the odds that you’ll stick with them and ultimately accomplish what you set out to do. When you put pen to paper, be specific. Describe exactly what your goal is, how you’ll know when you accomplish it, and the date you want to have it accomplished. Be as specific as possible and write your goals in terms of what you want instead of what you don’t want. For example, if you’re currently a cashier and your goal is to be a doctor, say that you want to be a doctor instead of saying that you don’t want to be a cashier anymore. That may seem like a silly point, but when you focus on the positive instead of the negative, it reinforces where you want to go instead of dwelling on where you’re starting,
Tell Another Person
Telling another person your goals can be scary. It can also help you reach them. Now that someone else knows what you want to achieve, you’ll have extra motivation to see it through. Every little bit of motivation helps.
Turn One Goal Into Many Small Goals
Breaking down large goals into smaller steps is one of the best ways to ensure that you accomplish what you set out do. Large goals can be daunting and take years to realize. It’s easier to see progress and stay motivated when you turn your large goal into a series of small steps. Plus, you get to celebrate a new accomplishment after every completed step. Feeling accomplished is a great way to stay motivated and on track toward your larger goal.
Plan And Start Your First Step
Once you’ve broken your goal down into smaller steps, it’s time to get moving. Starting is often the hardest part. You’re unsure of yourself and probably a bit intimidated. Just put your feet in the fire and place all of your focus on the first small goal in your plan. Getting the ball rolling can be hard, but the more momentum you generate, the easier it is to keep going.
At some point during your journey you’ll face challenges and want to give up. Keep pushing forward. If something you’re doing isn’t working, step back and approach it from a different angle or ask for help. If you’re really stuck, you may need to adjust this step. That’s okay, but you’ve come too far to give up now. Keep with it and eventually you’ll get where you want to be.
It’s Time to Party
Eventually, you’ll accomplish all of the smaller goals you wrote down. When the day comes that you’ve crossed all of them off, it’s time to celebrate. By reaching each of your smaller goals, you’ve also accomplished your large goal. Congratulations! Take some time to enjoy your success and reflect on what you learned about yourself during the process. After you’ve basked in your glory, go ahead and start working on something else you’d like to accomplish.